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Common Sense Bigotry and the WNBA’s Golden Goose

In the summer of 2020, Senate candidates Jon Ossoff and Raphael Warnock were underdogs in Georgia until incumbent Senator and WNBA team owner Kelly Loeffler fully aligned with Trump’s MAGA movement and their attempts to turn the Black Lives Matter activism of the league’s players into a campaign strategy.

The players turned their attention to ousting Loeffler from her seat of power both in DC and in the owner’s box, and they succeeded in doing both, helping to put Ossoff and Warnock into the positions they now hold and are fighting to keep in this year’s midterm elections.

This summer, though, while Ossoff and Warnock continue to be a thorn in the side of, incredibly, a second-term Trump, the activist in the W that we’re being presented with is Sophie Cunningham and her “common sense bigotry.”

It occurred to me early in this thirtieth-anniversary season, now that the league has its watershed media rights deal and the players have their historic CBA, that both sides of that equation may have chosen to turn down the temperature on being so publicly politically active, even if it was never discussed explicitly. And even if their approaches are wildly different.

Players stay on the floor for the national anthem this summer. “Statement Tees” are infrequently worn unless you are Coach Cheryl Reeve or the always outspoken Natasha Cloud. Despite the dreadful record of the current administration and the progressive enthusiasm heading into this fall’s election cycle, there’s no collective action to be found among these women in 2026.

And that is their right. I’m not demanding action, just noting its absence.

Meanwhile, the league front office has taken a different approach. Or, perhaps, an approach similar to one popularized by their parent organization’s biggest star of the 1990s: “Republicans buy sneakers, too.1

Caitlin Clark’s arrival in the professional ranks a few seasons ago brought a fan base that does not share the same values as those this league has been cultivating for most of its life. That they have glommed onto her, her team, and her teammate, Cunningham, seems to have inspired the most Corporate America thing possible from the association: protect the goose that lays the golden eggs at all costs.

I imagine they see it as being apolitical. But nothing is apolitical in this country, and when that stance becomes just not trying to antagonize “common sense” Americans, what you really get is what we’ve seen over the last week. 

Cunningham spouts her “common sense bigotry,” doubles and triples down,  and gets rewarded with halftime show appearances on national broadcasts.

Meanwhile, a coach who might have a different perspective on her comments and the rights of trans people to play sports is cut off by her team’s PR team for a statement full of baby pablum.

When a team owner’s arena is invaded by bad-faith actors seeking to fabricate an incident, her understandable reaction and interaction with them result in disciplinary action from the league

That seems pretty political to me. Choosing to coddle the bigots because you want them to keep spending their money is a devil’s bargain.

It also completely ignores what else has happened over the last five years and the groundswell of youthful progressive enthusiasm that has organically built around the league during that time. That fanbase, the one that will stick around long after Clark and Cunningham ride off into the sunset, has the values that underpin this league. And it is the fuel that drives all who thrive in and around women’s sports. 

The lifeblood of women’s sports is inclusivity. We are here because we want to cheer for these women, this bountiful, broad, cornucopia of athletes, who compete like hell while also clearly being about something greater than themselves. 

The billionaire NBA owners, both at a league and team level, may not want to hear that, but ignore it at your peril. Chasing fickle fans who have no respect for the people who have kept this thing going for the last 30 years may turn away the folks who get it better than you ever will. 

And then you’ll be left holding an empty bag.

That’s just common sense.


  1. Yes, I know that Jordan denies saying it. ↩︎

What to this Negro is America at 250?

As I entered our local grocery store this morning, the security guard called me over.

“I like your shirt,” she said. I was wearing Angel City FC’s Immigrant City tee.

“Thank you,” I replied.

“I said to my church women’s group today, ‘Happy 4th of July to the Americans first and also…” 

She stammered a bit.

“Wait, I am trying to get my words.”

I waited.

“Happy 4th of July to the Americans first and also for the immigrants. Like your shirt.”

“Well, none of our people are originally from here. We are all immigrants,” I said.

“Except the people who were on this land,” she retorted.

“And yet, those are the ones whom our nation considers least American. But, as my shirt says, ‘Los Angeles is for everyone.’ So is America.”

As we parted, I said loudly, “My African sister, my American sister, Happy Independence Day!”

She smiled widely and yelled back, “For all of us!”

For all of us.

Photo by Janay Peters on Unsplash

The Power of Friendship

“It’s us,” Shannon said when I wondered aloud some twenty years ago about who would fight for what’s right. She’s been gone for over a year now, but I’ve returned to her moral clarity again and again as we navigate the overwhelming selfishness that has always been a core part of the American psyche, but in this faux gilded age of Trumpism, is a genuine crisis.

Back in April, Sophie Haigney wrote that the word “courage” has fallen out of fashion because it requires you to have some kind of moral-based conviction.

The valorization of ‘high agency’ is emblematic of a moment when risk-taking is overvalued. It’s an ethos for a gambler’s time, and we’re living in one. ‘Courage’ has a moral valence that agency doesn’t. Agency is about action, but it tells us nothing of direction.

Even using the royal “we” in our fractured society feels as quaint and outdated as courage apparently is. But that kind of overwhelming selfishness is not a winning posture if you value your soul. And, more importantly, if you value and respect those around you, near and far, you know that what we need more of is earnest courageousness in the face of seemingly insurmountable odds. 

Even if we’ve fallen out of the habit of using the word, the folks who have been out in the streets doing the work to protect their neighbors against ICE over the last year have shown nothing but courage. For those of us who haven’t become stuck on the perch of skepticism and cynicism that so dominates our hyper-individualized media consumption, we can recognize those who stand up and do the right thing because it’s the right thing to do. Sometimes they do so individually, but collective action seems most effective in this age of “high agency” individuals who seem to value only fealty to getting rich and getting over.

Maybe that’s why the 2026 New York Knickerbockers winning has been such a euphoria-inducing victory. Ever since their come-from-behind win in Game 5 of the NBA Finals—their first championship in 53 years—a meme has been circulating online. In it, the joke is that the Knicks defeated a stacked, favored San Antonio Spurs team with the “Power of Friendship.”

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The image makes light of that collective power but, historically, movements built on courageous, unified, collective action filled with belief, determination, and an unwavering will to win, not just for self but even more so for each other, are celebrated as the greatest when they finally break through. Throughout their historic playoff run, Knicks players repeatedly talked about their effort being driven by a desire to see each other win and by their commitment to their fans and the city of New York. You would think that in a team sport, that kind of sentiment would be common, but given how high the monetary stakes are, that kind of selflessness is consistently usurped by showcasing what one can do individually.

I think we’re off individual profiles of courage, though. We’ve been starving for that “We Shall Overcome” energy. Individualized action, absent any grounding humanistic principles, is the claimed modus operandi of the power brokers in our society. 

Rebecca Solnit has been arguing that “maybe the community is the next hero.” As the five boroughs come together to celebrate their conquering basketball team this week, I think she’s right. Because part of the “Impossible Joy” surrounding the way the Knicks won is that it’s validation of something community-centered folks want to believe. If that long-doubted team could do it, then we can, too. We, the people, can win together and do the hard things not merely because we can but because we must.

There’s no soul in doing only for self. The consequence of doing nothing is untenable.

I’d been searching for new language that effectively describes this idea of collective courage. Solidarity is where I keep ending up, but it doesn’t quite cut it. 

Maybe I should stop looking. Shannon already provided the perfect terms. 

Us.

It’s us.

The Power of Friendship wins again.

Fortunate

“They say that freedom is a constant struggle. They say that freedom is a constant struggle. They say that freedom is a constant struggle, O Lord, we’ve struggled so long we must be free.”—a freedom song

Almost exactly ten years before I was born, a young John Lewis and thousands of others who grew weary of waiting for their freedom crossed the Pettus Bridge in Selma, Alabama. With unparalleled discipline, unwavering resolve, and profound love, they refused to be denied. Months later, the Voting Rights Act was passed in direct response to their courageous actions. It chokes me up to think about those sacrifices that allowed me to live half a century without enduring those harrowing battles. No one has ever attempted to suppress my right to vote. Bigotry holds so little power over my ability to succeed that I have largely forgotten its sting.

I can count on one hand how many times I felt someone else’s racism had negatively impacted my life. I have achieved everything I have set out to do with my skin color rarely being used against me.

I’m fortunate.

Over the past two weeks, I’ve immersed myself in the three-volume graphic novel collection “March” by John Lewis, Andrew Aydin, and Nate Powell. This autobiographical narrative reminds us of our nation’s history and the relentless pursuit required to bend it toward the ideals we profess to hold dear. Illustrated in stark black and white, the story unflinchingly recounts how a boy from Troy, Alabama, became one of the architects of the civil rights movement and what it took to even glimpse equality.

“By and large, American politics is dominated by politicians who build their careers on immoral compromises and ally themselves with open forms of political, economic, and social exploitation.”—John Lewis

I’m fortunate.

This leaves me with an important question: What do I do with this good fortune? How can I repay the sacrifices made by those who had so little and gave so much?

How can I help foster a society where love reigns as the highest virtue?

The answer is simple: ultimately, you stand up.

In her acceptance speech at the NAACP Image Awards, Kamala Harris declared:

“This organization came into being when our country struggled with greed, bitterness, and hatred. Those who forged the NAACP knew the forces they faced and how stony the road would be. Many see the flames on our horizons, the rising waters in our cities, and the shadows over our democracy, asking, ‘What do we do now?’ We know exactly what to do because we have done it before and will do it again.”

Despite the suffering, chaos, and anxiety that permeate our world, I still choose joy. I commit to the resolute ideals championed by those who paved the way before me. You can take many things from us, but you cannot take away our dignity.

Those who seek to deny us genuine justice and equality cannot steal my sunshine.

“However difficult the moment, however frustrating the hour, it will not be long… because ‘truth crushed to earth will rise again.’” —Martin Luther King, Jr.

The fortunate may lament going through this administration’s nonsense, but making good trouble in service of those in its crosshairs is how I pay forward what was done for me long before my birth. I would consider myself fortunate to lead a life that echoes just a fraction of the good accomplished by John Lewis and other leaders of the Civil Rights Movement. 

Fortune favors the brave.

March.

Vulgar Favors

You ain’t really wild, you a tourist.

— Kendrick Lamar, King’s Dead


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Gianni Versace was murdered by Andrew Cunanan 21 years ago this morning. I finished reading Maureen Orth’s exhaustive accounting of how that tragedy came to pass just last night. An impulse pickup at the library a week ago, I had no idea how gripping the story would be even though I knew the now Emmy-nominated season of American Crime Story: The Assassination of Gianni Versace had used it as it’s source material.

The 90s were wild.

Cunanan’s spree-killing over two months across four states occurred just after the OJ Simpson trial and the death of JonBenet Ramsay. Princess Diana—a friend of Gianni Versace’s—would die being chased by paparazzi just a few weeks later. Tabloid television and the 24-hour news cycle are coming into their own. Gay/Queer culture is alien to the mainstream media, treating just the mere mention of the word homosexual as scandal.

What is made even more evident in the book is how all of this led to Cunanan not being found after his first three murders—which would have been difficult to prevent—and allowed for two others to fall in the days and weeks after them.

The police and investigative bureaus didn’t find much compassion for gay victims and seemed unwilling to delve deeper into a community foreign to them to understand their killer. Fear of being embarrassed like the police and district attorneys in Los Angeles after OJ made their choices both overly cautious and bumbling and likely got at least one person not initially in Cunanan’s cross-hairs killed as a result.

Even Orth’s own words show how uncomfortable much of America was with discussing the hidden world of gay men. While her compassion for Cunanan’s victims comes through, her portrayal of his life and the people in it before he becomes a serial killer seeks to shock and titillate. The whole world of male homosexuality is all sex, drugs, pornography, bondage, perversion, vanity, and excess. All of that even though she’s talking continuously to people who seem to have strong ties to each other with love, friendship, affection, and care for each other hiding in plain sight behind their explanations of club culture and how one must live when society taxes you significantly for coming out.

This is what Ryan Murphy’s retelling of this story gets so well. The tragedy of Andrew Cunanan’s story is not just in the lives he snatched but also in the way they were forced to live before he took them. Only Versace was out to everyone who knew him. Three of Cunanan’s other victims (two of whom were gay and another seems likely) lived double lives tortured by the choices they had to make long before Andrew did so physically.

The show conveys the complexities of the “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” decade in a way that a book published in the year after the murders probably can’t. We didn’t have the language or the hindsight for it.

Vulgar Favors, though, is still a compelling read. It is a grand reminder of how far we’ve come and how far, still, we have to go.

WIN

You either with me or against me.

— Jay Rock

I woke up one morning this past week after a rough night of sleep. My dreams were filled with visions of America’s southern border. My dreams were filled with the sounds of children’s cries. My dreams were filled with the stone faces of people in expensive suits and dresses and uniforms explaining how this was somehow preferable to treating those migrating from Central America with humanity and care.

I listened to a meditation called “Let it be” to try and make enough peace in my head to get out the door and go to work a functioning human being. By the end of those 14 minutes, though, only one thought was blaring in big block letters at the front of my mind:

Don’t Let it Be!

So, this week, I’m grateful for those of us who won’t let it be. Thank you to those who protest loudly in our border towns and our capital cities. Thank you to the journalists telling the stories that our government agencies don’t want to be told. Thank you to those who refuse to make oppression easy or comfortable for those that wish it so.

I’ve thought about this excerpt from The Holocaust, the French, and the Jews that a French Historian friend of Shana‘s tweeted

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Don’t let anyone tell you that being nice is more important than being moral. Don’t let anyone tell you that how you stand up must be in the streets. The point is to not roll over in any way you can.

For all those not letting it be, I’m grateful.

And I’m with you.

Humans of Los Angeles

“Man woman, you might as well dance. Get down, Zulu.” Q-Tip, ManWomanBoogie

This image showed up several times on twitter a few days ago.


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I disagree.

I don’t know what I think the percentages might be but I do know that on most days, I see more acts of kindness than I do cruelty.

I’m splitting time between two offices until the new year, one of which is downtown. This has allowed me the opportunity to make metro my primary way of commuting and that allows me to spend more time in close contact with a much larger and more varied collection of the humans of LA.

Despite what you’ve heard, LA’s public transit system is well used. The Orange Line and Red Line are packed to the gills during commuting hours filled with all kinds of folks. 

Yesterday, there was the guy with the incredibly well behaved service dog. The tall kid mean mugging who seemed to think everyone walking past him was intentionally bumping him. The high fashion young italian tourists who had little sense of US norms for personal space and who truly embodied “talking with your hands.” The mom with the precocious toddler who could only be calmed (sort of) by the glowing screen of the smart phone. The other toddler strapped tightly into her stroller who couldn’t help but swing back and forth wildly, smiling at everyone who happened to give her a glance. 

And, while I do regularly see the tactics women have to employ to avoid unwanted suitors or harassment or the men who take up too much space on the train or the obnoxious teens who get loud in the hopes of menacing or making uncomfortable the rest of us, far more often, I’m aware of the little moments of kindness.

At least once a ride, I see someone go out of their way to clear a seat for an elderly or disabled person or weary mom. Yesterday morning’s commute featured a battle for graciousness between an older gentleman and a slightly younger than him lady over who should take a recently available seat. People help each other with directions. Regular commuters nod and smile at each other across a train with common understanding. People, for the most part, leave our homeless and mentally ill, who frequent the trains, be. And sometimes, they offer a few dollars and/or a little dignity.

We’re all just humans of Los Angeles.

So, no, three out of every four Americans don’t got me fucked up.

Three out of every four Americans got me wanting to do better.

Hard Knocks and Hard Conversations

“The truth remains self-evident.”Georgia Anne Muldrow, Zulu (The Mind)

We sat around the kitchen table in my aunt-in-Law’s small home in a cute little neighborhood. Her daughter and her new husband were planning to go out to Wal-Mart to take advantage of discounts on video games. In the midst of giving them a hard time for leaving Thanksgiving festivities to shop, she notes that she’d like a new TV if it’s cheap. Somehow we twisted our way into a discussion of the poor and the choices poor people make.

“How are you going to be on assistance and have a 50 inch TV?”

“How are you going to always have your hair did and your nails done?”

“There was a woman on Judge Judy who had seven kids and was suing a man that she had tried to buy a car from that never brought her the car. Judge Judy asked her how she was paying for these seven kids without having a job. She said she got 700 dollars a month from Disability for one of her kids. ‘How are you going to buy a car when you don’t have a job?! Whose going to pay for these kids? Me? Byrd?!”

Incredulous laughter.

I wanted to say, “Yes. Judge Judy is the highest paid person on television. Maybe she and Byrd could afford to provide some additional support for families in need.”

I wanted to say, “How do we expect this woman to improve her family’s condition if she doesn’t have a car? Wouldn’t a woman with a child on Disability need a car?”

I wanted to say, “What do you think you would spend your money on if you were in high stress, grief-stricken poverty?

I wanted to say, “Or better yet, don’t you think she spent as little as humanly possible for her nails and her ‘do? Is it possible that feeling good about how you look is a basic human want and desire? Couldn’t looking presentable help you at a government agency or a job interview or your child’s school or any of the other dozen places you might need to go in a day where people are just waiting to close the door in your face?”

Instead I drank my cran-brrr-rita and waited for the mac & cheese to finish cooking.


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It’s hard to get people to acknowledge their own good luck. A two person parental unit with steady income (even if modest). Having those parents know there is better for you out there and pushing you in those directions. Always having food on the table. Always having the lights on.

These are not givens. They are fortunes. We don’t tend to see them as such. It’s difficult to tell someone they don’t have it so bad. Most of our own personal narrative is that we have overcome great burdens to be where we are.

So, single mother of the projects, just do more. Get right. Stop making stupid choices and be like me. I made it. So can you.

It’s hard to talk to people about poverty.

Fortunate. Thankful. Determined.

“Forever conditioned to believe that we can’t live. We can’t live here and be happy with less.” Sting, If You Love Somebody Set Them Free

There have been a wave of stories in recent weeks trying to paint the real picture of Poverty in America. Food insecurity and income inequality are regular matters of interest on the Melissa Harris-Perry Show. These societal ills, more than any others, are becoming my core issue of concern and where I plan to focus nearly all of my charitable giving and volunteerism for the foreseeable future.

I live on the right side of America’s economic divide. We’re not a paycheck to paycheck household. We don’t balk at expensive meals or cringe at the rising price of gas or hold our nose (much) at air travel or hotel costs. Hell, that we take trips via plane and have real vacations make us very different than a far too large number of Americans.


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And while we eat well at pop-up restaurants and select grocery stores based on variety and specialty rather than cost, i’m increasingly aware that there are those who have to make the choice between cheap eats and diapers. I’m more frustrated that most of my tax dollars go to military spending rather than the basic human essentials of my fellow man. I’m mortified that there are serious debates about the value of food programs and universal health care and housing support. I’m ever more determined to do more.

So, this year, as I sit down with family in a warm home with an abundant table, I give thanks for being so fortunate. 

And I give thanks that I have the opportunity and the will to do so much more for those less economically lucky.

Thanksgiving is a story of survival from a time when that wasn’t a given. That is still the truth of this day for many of us.

It is maddening to try to figure out why that is. There’s no reason why it should be.